Humor is death’s eternal nemesis

 

 

 “Life is a song – sing it. Life is a game – play it. Life is a challenge – meet it. Life is a dream – realize it. Life is a sacrifice – offer it. Life is love – enjoy it.” —Sai Babi.

This is a reply to my partner Susan and my Word Prompts challenge: HUMOR

This past weekend I attended the funeral of my brother-in-law Ray. He was born on May 30, 1937. He died in the hospital on June 3rd 2019. He had just celebrated his 82nd birthday a few days before his demise. He had been hospitalized on May 30th.

The evening before his death family members present described his tone as light, his mind as clear as it had always been and his sense of humor and penchant for story telling as keen as it ever had been. He died peacefully in his sleep in the early hours of April 3rd.

The female minister officiating the event described him as a “man of mystery” and even his closest friends, acquaintances and family members did not know his many talents, accomplishments and personal goals.

Friends described him as a life long student, writer, photographer, fisherman, traveler and teacher. He had been a pilot in his younger days  and taught bible classes. His art work was displayed on the walls of the church.

She called this day “Ray’s day” and a few times during her sermon and eulogy for her friend broke into tears of sadness. While she grieved the loss of a close friend she did celebrate the fact this this man had been the life, soul and drive for the congregation.

His spirit and love of life was the glue that bonded his fellow church members not only in the past but on this solemn day.

Although the event was somber and grief filled during his eulogy humorous anecdotes and personal experiences were shared which tended to not only bond the attendees in their grief and sense of loss but also reveal the hidden side of the man.

I have attended a great many funerals and listened to many eulogies and noticed that humor tends to not downplay the seriousness of the event but offers a hope and intimacy that the attendees need to find closure about someone they knew and loved and respected.

Having your own sense of humor helps a person to understand the many unexpected incidents ( both good and bad) that happen in everyone’s life.

Cultivating a sense of humor will help you to weather all those storms and confusions that life throws at us all.

T.S. Eliot in his work Murder in the Cathedral states somewhat negatively that “life is a cheat and a disappointment”.

I say that a person cheats themselves knowingly by not trying to cultivate their own personal sense of humor and allowing all the negatives in life dampen their life force.

 

EDITORIAL COMMENT

I would like to thank my dear friend, partner and associate Susan for all her support and assistance during this difficult time for me. It is much appreciated.  – gc

 

Word Prompt Humor

 

 

 

 

3 comments

  1. Leaving this world peacefully is what we all hope for. To be remembered with love and a smile is a bonus. He was a very fortunate man 🙂

    Thank you for your kind remarks toward me they are much appreciated. xx

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